Teen Angst and Growing Up: A Parent Must Provide Guidance Gently But Firmly
Parenting is fraught with different youngster demeanor problems, which may prove to be very challenging. Even if these problems are not very serious, parents can as usual get flustered in dealing with issues that they have never confronted before. Most parents are puzzled about the range of freedom they are allowing their kids; if they are doing their best; if their parenting type is an appropriate one. They fear about leaving the reins too loose, and at the same time being rather strict. Here are some ideas that can help you in these testing years. You may also find them in Diary of a Wimpy Kid 5.
Be firm but caring and tender – Seek their cooperation to stick to rules around the house. Remain firm when it is needed and don’t give in to your teen’s tantrums. At the same time, do not forget to forgive your teenager. That is, of course, a hard task to perform when parenting adolescents; in particular, if you are facing teenage demeanor problems, recall that these are their first steps into adulthood. You may read about it in Diary of a Wimpy Kid the Ugly Truth.
Parenting Teenagers: Be Careful to Honor Your Kid as an Individual
Parenting teenagers is not easy. It is a challenge. Teenagers troubles can come in batches. So, educate yourself ahead of time; put some study into it, and know what you’re going to do and say when you confront your kid. It is easy to forget what it was like to be a teenager. Spend a little time trying to recall how it was.
Teen angst hurts
Thus the teen needs you to be firm, at times, yet also to compliment him and be loving & patient.
Accept the idea that every kid is individual. The worst act any parent can do is compare siblings, or kids of friends. This will just breed further teenage behaviour problems. You need to learn if there is truly a difficulty with your teenager, and find ways to help them solve their troubles independently; and without the interference of sisters/brothers or some friend as a benchmark.
Let them be: Enable your child to have a firm resolve. In the case of disagreements, verbally spell out the conflict and end asking: “What do you think you could do?” or “What are your variants?” Help your child list a few variants that they may not have originally considered.
Hold your tongue just before you want to say, “I think you should...” If the outcome of a particular decision made by your teen was not desired, do talk to your kid about what happened. Discuss what they might do differently the next time, and do not be judgmental. Instead, give your teen positive feedback and underscore the fact you are proud that they took this challenge!